As my due date draws nearer, I find it harder to concentrate on my remaining tasks before I file my maternity leave. Although I am scheduled for a repeat CS on December 3rd, I still feel that I need to fast track all my pending tasks should I give birth early. But boy, what a task to do! Between endless trips to the comfort room for pee breaks, I often find myself daydreaming about what I could do once I get home. Cuddle with my first born, arrange the pantry, sort the clothes in the cabinet. The list goes on to the point it becomes so overwhelming.
So I started reading various blogs on minimalism in order to create a more meaningful life with my family. One particular blog that I liked, The Tiny Life, listed steps on how to start living a minimalist lifestyle.
1. The decluttering process. It said: to live a simple lifestyle, you’ll need a simple living space. While I still consider myself a simple person, I would still say that I’ve been influenced by consumerism especially by those that I follow on social media. And it also doesn’t help that I am about to become a second time mom. All those cute baby stuff! Recently, a pregnant friend and I went shopping for baby stuff. While I reminded myself that I only needed the basic stuff, just like what I did for my first born, as in buying only stuff if the need arose, I fell into the trap of getting “nice” things for my second baby. I mean, I do need three comforters right? I need additional hooded blankets, booties, gloves, even though I already have one from my previous pregnancy. I mean, I have to have them in color pink, right?! The problem with this was, since we’re living in a fairly small studio type house (40 sq mtrs), we just didn’t have the space to store them. It stayed on a chair for a week before I was able to squeeze it inside our cabinet. Sooo.. This may not happen overnight, but I am planning to discard all our (including that of my husband’s and son’s) unused clothes during my maternity leave.
2. Stay mindful. Living intentionally. If there is something in your life that you don’t love, change it. What I really truly wanted to change in my life right now is to minimize, if not truly eradicate, the hours that I spend on social media (mostly just Instagram and Facebook). I was able to stay off Facebook successfully for a month because I was so fed up with the amount of fake news I stumble upon my feed on a daily basis. I’ll do it again next month.
3. Minimize your relationships. This will probably have to be done last, if we’re doing it.
4. Be intentional with your time. Instead of RSVP’ing “yes” to everything you’re invited to, take some time to think about whether it’s something that you are excited about attending. Hah! I am so guilty. There was one weekend, where I had to attend my niece’s birthday AND attend a get-together with college friends. We went out at 2PM, and ended up going home at 11PM, with our energy depleted.
5. Create a savings account. A huge part of minimalism is creating financial freedom. Before we got married, my husband and I have already failed at starting out right financially. After working for five years, all we were ever able to accumulate was consumer debt, which we had to pay off years into our marriage. I mean, we have to live up to the “for richer or for poorer” part of the wedding vows, right? It was only after two years that we were able to finally pay off a large chunk of our debts. Never ever going that path again. Last week, we challenged ourselves to only live on the remaining Php 1,500. By the end of the week, we still had Php 500 remaining in our budget. It can truly be done, especially if both husband and wife are in it.